XiaoQiang’s World

I was reading a fellow blogger’s post about relationship and all, and that set me thinking. 

(IMHO) In my humble opinion, every relationship is a cycle. In the beginning, it starts with several “magic moments” with your partner.  You look forward to the call, you wanted your partner and you felt great to be wanted, you trust and were trusted.  It was some intense connection called “love”.  It was spontaneous.

Falling in love was easy, hey then again, falling in anything is easy.  I put banana skins in front of you and then you know lah.

Anyway, after a few /months/years, for some people maybe after a few days/weeks, the magical euphoria fades.  It is but a natural cycle of  every relationship.  The calls are now disruptive, sometimes you wonder if you are still wanted and sometimes being wanted is such an irritation. You wonder if you are trusted and sometimes you just dun really wanna know.

Notice the huge difference between the beginning stage filled with magic moments and the latter stage with, at times, irritable moments.

This is when the relationship starts to break down and you may just blame your partner for not “doing enough” and start looking elsewhere. Here’s the real deal, the key to a relationship lies in sustaining it and it starts by looking not elsewhere but into the relationship itself.

(IMHO) In my humble opinion, the key to SUSTAINING a relationship is not so much the chemistry or the physics or even the sex, it is learning to sustain the love for the person you found.

At this point, I am reminded of a conversation I had with an old friend. At the opposite end of the spectrum, we have seen far too many people stuck in a relationship which has long past its sustainability stage and are just clinging on to it.  It takes heck of a lot of courage to end some relationships even though it is no longer positive.

So how do we tell the difference? How do we know if we should sustain the love for our partner in a relationship or muster the courage to close the chapter and move on? Well, if I only had that wisdom to know the difference……………..

XiaoQiang just wanna say, life will always throw banana skins after banana skins, just dun step on it. And Just dance like no one is watching, it’s Friday!

Bohemian Trilogy

(Carpe Diem. Memento Mori! (Seize the Day, Remember we are Mortal)

Musings of the Past

What if, by chance, you found a silver key to a door.  To a door that can unlock a path into your past.

Would you keep the key?

What if the path allows you to undo all your past wrongs, unwrite all your past regrets, unravel all your past pains

Would you treasure the key?

What if by undoing the past, you no longer love the ones you love now, you no longer have the friends you have now and you no longer treasure what you treasure now.

Would you still be you?

Would the past remain behind the door?.

Musings of the Future

What if you were shopping round Sim Lim Square and a salesman in a dark suit and dark shades stepped up and offered you a thumbdrive.

“This thumbdrive carries all detailed information of your future. Every single instance, every single detail is stored in this thumbdrive. You would know your whole future.”

Now what if he offers to sell it to you and he does remind that the future cannot be changed even if you knew in advance?

Would you buy?

What if you bought it and found out you would lose all your loved ones, one by one, and eventually you would die alone.

Would you regret buying?

What if you bought it and found out you never had the chance to say goodbye to your loved ones becuz you passed on before your time.

Would you ask for a refund?

What if we know our future and yet may never be ready to accept it?

Carpe Diem, Memento Mori!

What if you were walking along a second hand store at Bras Basah and you came across a used little brown book.

What if the title has the words "Happiness" and it is not a Chinese Wedding Invite? Would you be interested to browse?

What if you browse through it and  it tells you only in the present can we find our own utopia?  Would you still live in the past?

What if the book suggests only in the present can we find our own happiness? Would you still worry about the future?

What if the book ends with a line that says :

"Carpe Diem, Memento mori"

(Seize the day, for Remember we are mortal!)

The Last Bohemian signing off……

What if? (The Bohemian Trilogy)

What if you were shopping round Sim Lim Square and a salesman in a dark suit and dark shades stepped up and offered you a thumbdrive.

“This thumbdrive carries all detailed information of your future. Every single instance, every single detail is stored in this thumbdrive. You would know your whole future.”

Now what if he offers to sell it to you and he does remind that the future cannot be changed even if you knew in advance?

Would you buy?

What if you bought it and found out you would lose all your loved ones, one by one, and eventually you would die alone.

Would you regret buying?

What if you bought it and found out you never had the chance to say goodbye to your loved ones becuz you passed on before your time.

Would you ask for a refund?

What if we know our future and yet may never be ready to accept it?

Musings of the Future
The Last Bohemian………

XiaoQiang just wanna say, no need so cheem one.  As long got thumbdrive can have all the toto results for the next 50 years hor…. Hosay liao!  No need to What if here and there….

“I can bear to die, I cannot bear to leave her” – The short-lived poet Keats wrote this about his love as he neared his end. Does love really transcend death?

Like the wandering Condor Hero wondered “in this mortal world, what entity is love” or as XiaoQiang the pet cockroach asked me the other day - Simi is this thing called love?

So I told XiaoQiang. Love is this positive connection to trust and to be trusted, to want and to be wanted. It is an intense connection which makes us feel alive, feel good, feel real and feel fuzzy fuzzy warm warm.

It is sad if we numbed the desire for the connection.

Have I loved before? I believe I did.

Will I love again? I know I will.

Just dance like no one is watching, love like you have never been hurt .Life is a one-way ticket, no cheat code, no replays.( I really really love this line) .

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XiaoQiang was just wondering, does Love come in stripes too?