Relationships?
I was reading a fellow blogger’s post about relationship and all, and that set me thinking.
(IMHO) In my humble opinion, every relationship is a cycle. In the beginning, it starts with several “magic moments” with your partner. You look forward to the call, you wanted your partner and you felt great to be wanted, you trust and were trusted. It was some intense connection called “love”. It was spontaneous.
Falling in love was easy, hey then again, falling in anything is easy. I put banana skins in front of you and then you know lah.
Anyway, after a few /months/years, for some people maybe after a few days/weeks, the magical euphoria fades. It is but a natural cycle of every relationship. The calls are now disruptive, sometimes you wonder if you are still wanted and sometimes being wanted is such an irritation. You wonder if you are trusted and sometimes you just dun really wanna know.
Notice the huge difference between the beginning stage filled with magic moments and the latter stage with, at times, irritable moments.
This is when the relationship starts to break down and you may just blame your partner for not “doing enough” and start looking elsewhere. Here’s the real deal, the key to a relationship lies in sustaining it and it starts by looking not elsewhere but into the relationship itself.
(IMHO) In my humble opinion, the key to SUSTAINING a relationship is not so much the chemistry or the physics or even the sex, it is learning to sustain the love for the person you found.
At this point, I am reminded of a conversation I had with an old friend. At the opposite end of the spectrum, we have seen far too many people stuck in a relationship which has long past its sustainability stage and are just clinging on to it. It takes heck of a lot of courage to end some relationships even though it is no longer positive.
So how do we tell the difference? How do we know if we should sustain the love for our partner in a relationship or muster the courage to close the chapter and move on? Well, if I only had that wisdom to know the difference……………..
XiaoQiang just wanna say, life will always throw banana skins after banana skins, just dun step on it. And Just dance like no one is watching, it’s Friday!
June 4th, 2007 at 3:22 am
I guess we don’t. We don’t ever know for sure to move on or to stay.
The only thing that we can be sure of is “ourselves”. Be it a hurtful or a comforting relationship … I think it is important to have loved … like no one’s watching. That, to me, is never a loss.
March 3rd, 2008 at 6:42 am
Probably the time to let go and move on, is when the love that used to be productive, has become destructive.
Sometimes, for the base survival necessity, one as to move on, inspite.
March 3rd, 2008 at 6:42 am
Probably the time to let go and move on, is when the love that used to be productive, has become destructive.
Sometimes, for the base survival necessity, one has to move on, inspite.